Taking Care of #1: Why It’s Ok to Focus on Yourself

by | Mar 14, 2018 | Self-Improvement

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The article below is a guest post by Brad Krause, founder of of Self Caring and author of an upcoming book on Self-Care. I’ll add more details about his book right here as those become available!

Thanks Brad!

It’s not unusual to get burned out on the humdrum of everyday life. The repetition of eat, sleep, work, repeat can either be a comfort zone or prison. When you find yourself stuck in perpetual motion but going nowhere, stress, depression and anxiety can set in. But it does not have to be that way.

When you are willing to take time out to take care of yourself, you’ll find that you are not only healthier and happier, but also more able to take care of your home and family. If you’re not sure exactly what self-care entails, keep reading. You may be surprised to find out that even little things, such as getting a good night sleep, can have a profound and positive effect on your overall mental and physical health.

It's not only OK to focus on yourself--it's essential. Learn why it's important to focus on your physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual self-care. #SelfCare #SelfLove

Physical Self-Care

According to The Mighty, physical self-care takes on many forms. You might find a moment of respite while getting your nails done or maybe you prefer binging on your favorite Netflix shows. Physical self-care also includes eating a healthy diet, exercising, sleeping at least seven hours each night, and wearing clothing that makes you feel your best. Although these activities seem superficial on the surface, doing a few small things just for you helps you relax, makes you feel good and can offer a long-lasting mental health boost.

Emotional Self-Care

Emotional self-care, like physical self-care, does not look the same for everyone. Essentially, emotional self-care is the act of giving yourself permission to feel your own emotions without forcing yourself to conform to someone else’s emotional ideologies. Self-help guru and author Louise Hay often recommends using positive affirmations, which is a form of emotional self-care.

Psychological Self-Care

In the same vein as emotional self-care, psychological self-care allows you to make choices for yourself that will contribute to your personal well-being. For instance, when responsibilities begin to pile up or you start to feel as though you are being used, it is OK to say “no” – even to your children. The burdens of the world should not rest on your shoulders alone. Psychological self-care also includes allowing yourself to indulge in emotional, social or academic activities that have a positive effect on your mood. Things like visiting a history museum or taking some time out to yourself to do art or play music are forms of psychological self-care that are often overlooked.

Spiritual Self-Care

Regardless of your religion, or lack thereof, it’s important to take the time to cater to your spiritual needs. This does not mean going to church – although it can if that is what spirituality looks like to you. Spiritual self-care is comprised of doing things that help you get in touch with yourself. Spending time in nature and volunteering are good examples.

Regardless of which area of self-care you choose to focus on at any particular moment, your mental health and well-being relies heavily on your overall level of happiness with your life in general. Stress is one of the most common triggers of other mental health concerns, such as depression and anxiety. You can take steps to circumvent stress in your life by striving for a healthy and happy home.

Redfin explains that eliminating stress does not have to mean changing your entire life. Something as simple as an oil diffuser and reducing clutter from your home can go a long way toward making you feel like your best self. When you eliminate distractions and do things around your home to create a serene environment, your home will become a haven against the stresses of the outside world. And when your days begin and end in a calming and comforting environment, you will benefit mind, body, and soul.

It's not only OK to focus on yourself--it's essential. Learn why it's important to focus on your physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual self-care. #SelfCare #SelfLove


Brad makes such great points about the importance of creating time for self-care–especially when you’re stressed and struggling with depression, anxiety, etc.

The times we need self-care most, are often the times we tend to neglect ourselves most.Click To Tweet You can turn that around by spending more time taking care of you.

Head down to the comments below, and tell me your plans for taking better care of YOU!


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  1. Denise Baca

    Hi Ali,

    I think my plans for self care will be to de-clutter around the house a bit. Seems that I had done this once before and couldn’t get rid of a lot of things. When I did this I felt a little bit better. Now, I am thinking it’s time again to get rid of some of these things I now longer need. Hanging on them for way to long. At the same time I know that I’ll feel better and making room in the house and also ending some of this hard to deal with feelings just because the place is a mess and overwhelming with things. Self-Care that is the plan. After that then a little reward for myself.

    I am excited about your Challenge of Kindness and Compassion. Will be waiting for May 1st. Can’t hardy wait.

    You have a wonderful site here. What a nice way to reach out and help so many.

    Blessings, Denise

    • Ali Michelle

      Hi Denise. Thank you for those kind words. I needed a smile this morning!

      Decluttering the house is a GREAT idea. It’s almost funny how much calmer and relaxed I feel when things are actually put away–where they belong–and the clutter is at least hidden. Even if you aren’t able to get rid of everything, just reducing the “things” around you will help.

      I can relate to not wanting to get rid of things, though. We’re a military family. Each time we move (and we’ve moved a lot), we move the same little collection of unopened boxes from what I consider my “previous life.” I never open them and I never think of them unless it’s time to move, but for some reason it’s comforting to have it there. And I’ve decided that’s okay. ?

      As for why I can’t seem to throw away my kids’ stuffed critters–when they’re now 12 and 14? Good question!

      OMG! I just had a brilliant idea! The kids have old beanbag chairs but the beans are completely useless. I’m going to fill them with their stuffed critters! Sorry, that was a little random, but I just thought of it and felt the need to share! Ha. See? You’ve got me decluttering too. ?

      I’m super excited you’ll be doing the challenge. I’m anxious for it to start too!

      Bless you!



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