How to Slow Down and Ask for Help During Pregnancy

by | Oct 18, 2018 | Parenting

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It’s incredibly exciting when you announce your pregnancy. Then as the first few weeks disappear things start to wind down a bit as you’ve gotten used to the idea of a new baby and you go about your normal routine. But if you are one who’s constantly on the go and you have trouble finding your “stop” button, it I can be difficult to force yourself to give your pregnant body the breaks it needs.

Learning to relax is something you need to do, not just for the benefit of yourself, but also your unborn baby. With that in mind, let’s focus on how you can do just that.

Navigating the First Trimester

During your first trimester, it’s important to be more aware of such areas as your diet and your level of activity, but it’s also essential to focus on your frame of mind. If this is your first pregnancy, you may find yourself struggling with anxiety. Pregnancy is a bit foreign to you at that point, you might be dealing with morning sickness, strange aches and pains, and a whole host of other issues that feel alien to you.

One way to gain back a little control over your body and mind is to slow down and try to be a bit more mindful. Taking that time also presents an opportunity to educate yourself about the medical side of things. Sometimes, it becomes easy to jump to incorrect conclusions about new sensations and symptoms. From aching or heavy legs during pregnancy, to that general feeling of nausea that won’t seem to let up, understanding a lot of the reasons behind it, as well as having a healthy relationship with your doctor or midwife, can put some of these anxieties to rest.

Structuring Your Enjoyment

This may seem a little bit excessive, but if you are someone that struggles to relax, this can provide some sense of order to the pregnancy. As with any baby, you’ve already got a self-imposed deadline, but you don’t want to spend your entire pregnancy feeling sick and full of dread.

Generally, the last few weeks are when we all hit that point when we just want the baby out. Other moms-to-be struggle throughout the entire pregnancy, and this is where a deft combination of planning what happens after the baby is born, as well as your own sense of enjoyment throughout the pregnancy, will do you some good.

Pregnancy can be isolating–especially if you are the first person in your group of friends, but as there are numerous professional resources available, not to mention classes, exercise courses, and support groups available. This should give you the emotional support necessary to keep you on the right path. That feeling of isolation is something we can all fall prey to, even when we’re used to a certain social lifestyle.

Maybe you’re the type of person that gains pleasure from their work, and you’re now at the point where you literally have to slow down. This can be difficult to cope with. But this is where a support network of people that understand what you’re going through, both physically and emotionally, becomes essential. This is one reason so many daughters grow closer to their mothers during pregnancy, as that bond naturally strengthens. Perhaps you’re someone who is fiercely independent and avoid advice from your parents, but this is one area you may want to make an exception. Remember, they’ve been through it and likely felt the same concerns and fears you do.

Asking for Help

Some of us find it difficult to ask for help, but it’s important to important to seek out support during your pregnancy. We all need help from time to time! And there’s absolutely no shame in asking for help. But when you struggle to slow down and ask for help, it can quickly become a big issue during pregnancy. It’s important to ask for little bit of help from others, such as our partner. Not only is that beneficial for you, but it may help solidify your partner’s understanding of what you’re experiencing.

 For a lot of us, it’s about relinquishing some form of control over the whole process. Something like creating your birthing plan  can be done as a couple, and yes, it is your body, so you have the final say, but your partner wants to feel part of the process. A strong partnership can be a pivotal component in a pregnancy. Don’t let yourself sideline your partner through the process. This is another important reason to ask your partner to help throughout the pregnancy.

There are pros and cons to being a fiercely independent woman during pregnancy. Now, this isn’t to say you should rely solely on others to get you through, but for a healthy and happy pregnancy–much like a healthy and happy life–there are going to be times when we have to rely on the strength and kindness of others to get through difficult circumstances. Pregnancy can be the most frightening and amazing time in a woman’s life. You don’t have to go through it alone. 

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