5 Steps to Living a More Authentic Life and Finding Happiness

by | Oct 3, 2018 | Self-Improvement

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Your self-image is essentially the way you view yourself. You might think of yourself as a parent, a friend, a blonde, a sports fan, intelligent, impatient, a millennial, etc. But you’re more than any of those things, right? Right!

You’re a unique person with nuances and quirks that are unique to you!

So, what does it mean to live authentically? When who you are aligns with what you do, you’re living authentically. And I’m not just referring to what you do for a living. I’m talking about how you live your life day in and day out. Most of us view ourselves one way, but live another. Doesn’t make much sense, does it? Those who live authentically simply act honestly and congruently, based on their values and beliefs.

The benefits of living authentically are enormous: success, self-esteem, respect from others, genuine happiness, and inner peace to name a few. And we all strive for those things, don’t we? We all deserve those things as well!

Those that live a life that DOESN’T align with their values, beliefs, and attitudes tend to struggle with more anxiety, guilt, shame, and unhappiness. It might seem easier to live up to the expectations of others in the short-term, but the long-term costs are significant.

A self-image that aligns with your values will lead to a happier, more fulfilling life. Be bold enough to choose the person you want to become and live accordingly. The benefits are enormous. #authenticliving #liveintentionally #liveyourbestlife

Follow these steps to determine your true self and live life on your terms:

1. Identify your core values.

An authentic self-image is one that is aligned with your values. By knowing your values, you’ll gain s deeper understanding of what is important to you. Once you’re aware of your values, you can build a self-image and life that are more meaningful and enjoyable.

Make a list of your values. Create a long list and include everything that you think applies to you. Then, reduce your list to the ten values that are most important to you. You might struggle to narrow your list to just ten, but ten values are plenty.

2. Determine if there are conflicts.

For example, you might say that adventure and freedom are two of your most important values, but what if you also strongly favor responsibility and security? Those values could be in conflict.

When you’re faced with an inner conflict, you’re likely to shut down and do nothing. Sound familiar? If you’ve ever been paralyzed while making a decision, it’s possible your values were in conflict. Think back to when you’ve struggled to make a decision and see if it’s true.

Do you have any values listed that aren’t really priorities for you? We often carry around perspectives instilled by our parents. Here’s a newsflash: they may have been wrong. Take the time to determine your values for yourself. Disregard what society says you should value. You’re an individual.

3. Create an action plan for each value.

Imagine one of your values is being thrifty and saving money when you have the opportunity. But are you doing that? You might create a budget and savings plan that incorporates that value. You might plan to start clipping coupons, visit less expensive stores, and search for free entertainment options available on the weekends.

4. Make a list of activities you enjoy that are in alignment with your values.

For example, if generosity is a priority, you could find an enjoyable way to spend your time helping others. If health is a value you cherish, you might join a soccer team or a yoga class. Find your favorite sport and participate.

5. Evaluate yourself at the end of each day.

Think about the instances when you failed to live according to your values. Likewise, contemplate the times you were able to live according to your values and self-image, particularly when doing so was challenging.

Create a self-image that aligns with your values. First, it is necessary to identify and choose your values. Next, construct a life that allows you to live those values consistently and to thrive. Authenticity eliminates many of the common emotional ailments in life, but it’s not always the easiest choice.

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4 Comments

  1. candohannitude

    I LOVE THIS! I think you hit the nail on the head too, when you stated that areas of conflict can be from believing your core values are the same as what your parents instilled. I can so relate. Thanks for this!

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    • Ali Michelle

      Hi there! I’m so glad the post resonated with you. It’s funny how we almost blindly assume our parent’s values, isn’t it? In most cases, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but I believe it’s important to use that as a base set of values to create and mold your own. Stop by again soon, Ali 😊

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  2. Seppy

    I did the exercise a year ago (I had never done it before) and it was so interesting and powerful to actually sit down and think about your values to make sure you’re clear on who you are and what you want!

    Seppy | http://www.elleisforlove.com

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    • Ali Michelle

      Hi Seppy! You’re right. It’s amazing how much we learn about ourselves with a little intentional and conscious effort. When we focus on it, our values become a little more ingrained. Thank you so much for stopping in again. It’s good to hear from you. ?

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A self-image that aligns with your values will lead to a happier, more fulfilling life. Be bold enough to choose the person you want to become and live accordingly. The benefits are enormous. #authenticliving #liveintentionally #liveyourbestlife