3 Ways to Teach Your Daughter About Becoming a Woman
If there’s one thing all little girls (and sometimes boys) like to do, it’s dress up and do everything just like Mama. While it’s oh-so-cute and adorable as they stomp around in your heels with lipstick smeared on their faces, they are going to grow up one day and become a woman themselves. Yikes, huh?
I know, it’s scary as hell, but it’s inevitable, and it’s important to ensure that your daughter is well informed so that when changes to her body begin to happen she feels as if she’s experiencing the joys of womanhood rather than the oh-crap-is-this-normal fears that can surface. If she’s prepared beforehand, she’ll not only be far more likely to take it all in stride, but she’s also more likely to turn to you when things start to get a little confusing.
Use the tips below to help your daughter understand the process of becoming a woman.
Teach as You Play
Remember, your daughter wants is to be like you when she’s young. Use that to your advantage. Allow your daughter to learn as you act out various realistic situations with her. Show her how to cook dinner for the family or take care of the kids, for example. Pretend play toys such as play kitchens, grocery store playsets, or life-like dolls will help you teach her how to do those things.
The Our Generation Doll is a great example for this age group.There are lots of baby dolls out there–which are great for teaching baby care, but the Our Generation Dolls are geared toward young girls (and boys) who are a bit older than toddlers and just beginning to express a bit of individuality. They come with different clothes and accessories based on their own little doll personality, and are great for realistic pretend play.
Toys like these help her learn about the things you do while also having fun. Play with her and show her how to take care of her own little one’s needs. Tell her stories about when she was a baby, the good and the not-so-good ones. It will help her realise that being a woman and a mom isn’t as luxurious as she may have thought!
Getting your first period is scary, exciting–and a little gross–all at the same time. Especially when you’re so young and inexperienced. Schools continue to teach children about sex and bodily functions at an fairly early age, so it’s important to provide her with some information before she finds out from another source. Particularly when that source might be her equally-confused friends.
When you feel she is old enough, sit your daughter down and tell her what to expect when she starts her period. Be honest, but sensitive. For instance, there’s no need to terrify her with tales of miserable cramps, and heavy bleeding, but she needs to know it’s something she will experience and it’s normal. It’s never going to be a comfortable conversation, but it will prepare her for what will happen to her body, help her understand, and reassure her that you’ll be there if she has questions.
Self-Awareness and No Body Shaming
Sadly, one thing nearly all young girls go through is being unhappy with their bodies. While society and social media constantly encourage them to emulate the “ideal stick-thin” models, it’s understandable that they develop some hang ups about their own bodies.
However, sometimes these worries may stem from hearing you body shame yourself. Kids have a freaky innate ability to hear and see every damn thing their parents say and do. At least until they become teenagers. Then, their ears apparently lose the ability to hear anything at all. ?
Being aware of your own feelings about yourself and your body is important. Do your best not to put yourself down, shame your own body, etc. Not only will this encourage her to love her body and appreciate her unique beauty, it will encourage you to do the same.
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Give Her Space
Finally, you probably remember what it was like growing up with a parent constantly in your face. While it’s understandable that you want to know about her life and ensure she’s doing okay, sometimes she just needs a little space–just like you do. It’s important to take some time and focus only on yourself sometimes.
Hormones will cause your daughter to feel low sometimes without any explainable reason. Giving her space will allow her to work through those feelings and understand that it’s okay to struggle sometimes.
While providing her a little space is a good idea, if she continues to isolate herself or seems excessively despondent and troubled, it’s time to intervene. Be aware of possible issues such as depression and anxiety, bullying, etc.
The suggestions are just a few ways to help you bring your beautiful daughter into womanhood the right way. You’ll also find the extra attention you provide her will strengthen the bond you have with her.